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Published : November 27, 2008 |
Author : Guru-reza
Category : Personal Development | Total Views
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Coping when you are let down
There were few people that let me down. I got very upset. Then, I found out they have let themselves down more than me. Now I turn them down before they let me down.When I do something and it doesn't work, I do not consider it as a failure. I consider it as a strategy that did not work.I feel good that I discarded one thing that did not work and I will focus on another strategy that may have a chance of working.When I discarded more strategies that did not work I feel even better because I know that I go closer to findthe strategy that works.The first progress is difficult but builds a foundation for more. The reason that the first success takes a long time is because it prepares the ground for a lot of more successes that will happen one after another.
I use the same pattern of behaviour in understanding the people.I believe the people have their interests in their mind more than my interests.I also know that the people are driven more by their interests rather than anybody else's interests.I also have realised that people are driven instinctively to achieve their personal interests more than the public good; therefore when I meet new people I give them a chance to manifest their characters.The sooner they show their real character and what of kind of people they are is better.When someone lets me down, like everybody else, I get upset, but I also feel good that the person showed his nature before I entrusted him with a great level of my own interests.I do not blame these people for letting me down or for breaking their promises or for stabbing me from behind.
The fact of matter is that I hate all of these things which are not acceptable by any human being but I know that there are a lot of people who are creating big blocks on your way. The point is that you provide the person with a test to find out how reliable she or he is. I do not get angry when somebody begins stabbing me from behind because I have learnt the skills of coping with such actions.Fortunately I have been able to defend myself before stabbing begins.I am also pleased to declare that those who let me down, those who betrayed me, and those who wanted to stab me from behind got what they wanted to give me.I didn't take any action against them. The universe did.But I know that there is a way that my sincerity and smartness will do to people what they wanted to do to me.
This confidence in myself and in the universe provides me with adequate confidence to look at the world and challenge it.I know that I can change a great part of this world just because I am determined to do so.I also know that in every step that I take there is a barrier, there is a problem but this is the beauty of the whole thing.With every barrier that I remove from my way I have already changed the world for better even for a little bit.For every problem that I solve I know that I have already made a contribution, because the problem should have been solved and what a great pleasure that I did it.I cannot achieve a lot when I walk on the road that is already paved and thousands of people have already gone through it. And I am just one of them.But when I build a new road and I remove all the barriers, pave the way for others, then I know that I did something extraordinary that a lot of people will follow.They will achieve their goals by walking through the road that I have made.The road that I make facilitates success for hundreds to follow me.Not a lot may remember or may know that who was the first one who built that road but the fact is that when people get to their destinations after travelling through the road that I have built gives me immense pleasure even when I am gone.
Every person is a problem if you cannot solve him.Every person is a solution if you can trigger her resources in her.Nobody must be considered a failure forever.Nobody must be considered as an enemy even if he proves so.At that particular juncture your interests and his interests just did not converge.Animosity appeared.There will be a time in future when through your wisdom, your interests will converge in his and then you will know that he is a friend.The person you like immediately when you meet, you have to keep sufficient distances for the time, when he will move away from you.Nobody has come to see you or to stay with you permanently.Everybody comes in your life for his own reasons and once those reasons change; he will leave even without informing you.
This is the spirit of the nature.When you can give more, a lot of more people come to you.When you can give less, a smaller number of people will come to you.When you can't give anything only a few people come to you and those are those that you have to find a new name for them.
Reza Hossein Borr is an NLP Master Trainer and a leadership consultant and the creator of 150 CDs and 14 Change management models. He is also the author of Manual Success, Manual of Coaching and Mentoring, Motivational Stories that Can Change Your Life, and a New Vision for the Islamic World. He can be contacted by email: http://www.rezaaa.com |
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